Hey there Reader,
Tomorrow marks Remembrance Day — a time to pause and honour the lives lost who fought for their country and their way of life.
It’s also a day to acknowledge the suffering that goes far beyond battlefields — the families who grieve, the communities forever changed, and the futility of war that continues across the globe.
While we remember the bravery and sacrifice of those who came before us, I find myself reflecting, too, on what it means to remember in a broader sense — not only those who are gone, but also the parts of ourselves we’ve lost along the way.
What if this year, alongside the ceremonies, we also took a quiet moment to remember who we are — and what we really want now?
What Do You Truly Want — Now, Not Then
When we’re young, desire comes easily. We know what excites us, what sparks curiosity, what feels alive.
But over time, we take on responsibility, obligation, and the roles that life requires. We choose stability for our families, careers that make sense, and paths that feel safe.
Slowly, we can forget who we were before we became everything to everyone else.
At midlife, this forgetting can start to ache. We realize how much we’ve done for others — and how little we’ve done for ourselves.
And maybe now, for the first time, there’s space — or the belief of possibility — to ask again:
What do I really want now?
Not what I wanted twenty years ago. Not what I was told I should want. But what I, in this season of life, truly desire.
The Woman Who Forgot Herself
I once worked with a woman who had spent her whole life being the peacemaker — the one who kept the family steady, who stepped in quietly to fill the gaps.
It wasn’t something she set out to do; it just became who she was.
People came to depend on her calm, her competence, her ability to fix things. She said yes when she wanted to say no.
She carried what others dropped. She told herself this was love, and in many ways, it was.
But years later, she looked around and realized she didn’t recognize herself. “How did I get here?” she asked me. “How did I end up living a life that isn’t even mine?”
It hadn’t happened all at once — it never does. It was a slow drift, shaped by kindness, duty, and habit.
And yet, beneath it all, there was still a spark — a knowing that she’d once been someone full of ideas, laughter, creativity, mischief. Someone who wanted more than just to manage everyone else’s needs.
We all get off track sometimes — it’s part of being human. What matters is that moment when we start to find our way back, as she did by asking these questions.
Whose life am I living?
And what would it look like if I began to live my own?
Her journey back wasn’t quick or easy. But it began with remembering — remembering who she was before all the other voices told her who she needed to be.
I think so many of us can relate to that.
That moment when you finally stop and think, What the hell happened?
And in that same breath, a whisper: It’s not too late.
The Art of Remembering Yourself
To remember is to bring back the pieces that have been scattered by time, expectation, and exhaustion.
It’s an act of courage to sit still long enough to hear what your heart is asking for.
Here are some thoughts that might help you along the way.
- When was the last time you sat in stillness — not to plan or fix, but to listen?
- What value have you abandoned that deserves to come back?
- What could you stop doing for a month that would give you back a sense of yourself?
- What’s one small, beautiful thing you can notice today that reminds you life is still good?
- What would you do differently today if you believed your desired life was already unfolding?
The Deeper Call
Remembrance Day reminds us of the cost of forgetting — of what happens when we lose sight of what really matters.
It’s a time to pause and honour those who came before us, yes — but maybe it’s also a time to honour ourselves. To remember our own humanity, our own needs, and the life we still get to shape.
Because the best way to pay tribute to those who gave so much is to live fully — to make the most of the time and peace we have.
So this week, take a few quiet moments to check in with yourself.
Ask: What do I truly want now?
And am I willing to take one small step toward it?
Remembrance can be both reflection and renewal — a way of reconnecting with what’s real, and remembering that your life, too, is worth honouring.
If you’re ready to dig a little deeper into what’s next for you, let’s talk.
Sometimes all it takes is one honest conversation to start finding your way back to who you want to be.
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